When You're Moving Too Fast In Your Relationship

When I was 16 years old, I was in deep like with a guy I was dating. He was purely the anti-boyfriend of my parents' choosing. He drove a black car with a souped up engine. He smoked cigarettes. He had horrible manners. He would beep the horn for me when he came to pick me up. It drove my mother crazy. I mean really looking back - he had no respect.

But that's not why I'll remember him. What I'll remember is that I went to an amusement park one weekend and bought a keychain that had both our names with a heart in between them. I thought it was cute and I thought he'd get a little chuckle out of it. Uh - not! He read me the riot act about how I pressure guys (how he heard about me) and that I was simply too pushy and that he didn't think this whole thing was going to work out. All this on my front doorstep.

Needless to say, I was devastated. I hadn't known this about myself whether it was his truth or the truth. I carried it with me up until the point I realized that I was in a fully reciprocal relationship (my wedding day!).

What's the moral of this story? Well, it was kind of pushy for me to buy a keychain with our names when he wasn't my boyfriend and he didn't buy it with me or for me. I was forcing the issue. So take this teenage lesson and apply it to your lives now - never force the issue. It only makes you look desperate or clueless.

Tips That You're Moving Too Fast

1. You call him before you give him a chance to return the FIRST call

2. You are thinking about what your children will look like

3. You are leaving things in his house "by accident" like a toothbrush, underwear, etc.

4. You quiz him about his incoming calls--everyday!

5. You WANT to quiz him about his incoming phone calls

6. You want to meet his mother and ask her stuff about his childhood

7. You aren't interested in meeting anyone else and have been dating for a month

How to Write a Magnetic Online Dating Profile Part 2

How to Write a Magnetic Online Dating Profile Part 2

In part 1, we made the base for which to build your magnetic personal ad, or skeleton so to speak. Now we shall build the body, head to toe.

When writing your personal ad, remember that you are selling yourself. Emphasize on the positive, but a negative well blended into the ad might work as well, even make your ad stand out ("I may not have the body of a supermodel but…").

But first your photo: hugely important. Why? Because it is the first thing other people will look at before deciding to read farther. Also, the number responses increase dramatically when you post a photo.

The photo should be fairly recent and of yourself (not your cute cousin's). It should be cast you in positive light, but not overdone. And please do not post a suggestive photo on a serious dating or matchmaking site (it will not be published anyway).

Also of importance is your screen name. Prospects will look at this before deciding to whether to read any farther. Make this short, catchy and descriptive. Avoid over-used terms such as "cuteandsexy42".

While creating a screen name, it might help to zero-in on who you are and what you like to do (For example, "petiteblueeyez32" tells something about looks and age).

Next you will begin to write your personal ad. Start with a good headline: yet another hurdle to get over. Your headline should be short, descriptive, and easy to remember. Study other peoples' headlines and see which ones attract you.

Writing: A conversation-style writing works best for a dating profile. Use imagination. See your ideal woman/man as though seating right there in front of you. Tell her/him why she/he would want to be with you.

Say what you like to do and what makes you exciting. Get excited. Write without worrying about spelling, grammar or length. At this point you're trying to get your emotions on paper (or typing document), and stopping to make corrections only interrupts the flow.

Describe yourself. Say what makes you special. What you bring into a relationship. Your interests, hobbies, what makes you good company, what you bring into the relationship. Pour your heart out. And use action words. Give them something to make them remember your ad.

There are things you should avoid. Among them trite, canned expressions and overused clichés. I can't bear to read another "looking for my knight in shinning armor" type of personal ad. Neither can you, I presume.

Study other peoples' personal profiles. If an ad catches your eye attempt to find out what makes it interesting. Model yours on these, but please don't copy directly. Take your time and do it right.

Be honest. Be sincere. Don't exaggerate and don't fake. Above all, don't lie.

When you are done writing, take a break. Let your draft personal profile seat for a while (even a day or two). Then come back with a fresh mind and begin editing. Make corrections on spelling and grammar. Cut clutter. All you will have to do now is transfer your magnetic personal profile on to your dating site of choice.